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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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3 N" f3 a% Y6 _4 oSo here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:4 e* D9 {5 q5 M m1 w8 l
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
. O4 b' D9 |+ p9 Q; E& O3 ~ Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
: e: I3 ~6 z: e3 y3 e5 W/ D I am fine, thanks! (You)
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Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
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I am fine, and how are you. (You)4 Z0 ]( H. L/ W7 m
Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
' g6 x0 ] V2 |; t8 R Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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: t/ e j( y1 H1 H' ?- ZDay 3: Repeat, G; g' \. ^1 P: N, z
Repeat
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, Q1 j& Z2 C b1 M0 \3 ~+ ?& h I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
1 R; ?0 a! F1 O6 ?/ b Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)1 w6 B D1 ]) a E6 W" l
Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
8 R" q7 `8 m2 p2 m. a Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)0 ^2 h; s. V* b8 M, |8 z
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How was your weekend? (You)
}/ A# |, X( i Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
, H; W1 [/ z* ^4 z- Y Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
* Z) L7 u/ c3 {/ O Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
2 l1 O" L1 m: c8 H9 x$ U Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
5 \& p+ X2 s) D9 V4 \ Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.; a4 z1 r) ~: E* s; L$ G
Great idea and I will% F: s* H3 K& Q, W* X
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Then you see the boss walking by, I, ?- F) j% L' S
It is time to stop.
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The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.4 u9 `) L# I! a- C- T& j) i$ B
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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