Cold War

Matrix

I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.

: l1 g4 {4 X8 X+ Y+ i3 vSo here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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; U6 `; G3 G( Y: j! I* ~6 p1 cDay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
) ~. T8 n5 j  X            Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
            I am fine, thanks!       (You)

8 B, w& h& B8 N" oDay 2: Repeat  Day 1 (You)
            Repeat  Day 1 (Co-worker)
            I am fine, and how are you. (You)
            Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
$ f% T; o/ S; I# }4 }( _% k4 Q            Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)

Day 3: Repeat
            Repeat
            Repeat
            I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
1 \' ?1 {2 b( g" d  A% p; r. v            Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
            Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
           Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)

Next Monday: Repeat
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                        How was your weekend? (You)
" ^+ K" a5 W, O6 e0 ?' c) f8 [- X                        Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
- I2 H# O) a3 I* G! S- c! @                        Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
                        Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
                        Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
8 o+ s9 \8 U/ S- d9 t. f+ ?8 Y- v                        Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
" m7 z) H+ E. Z# G                        Great idea and I will
, N# r! f# Z6 J. }8 k9 I                        Bla—Bla—Bla
( d  z0 U! ~4 C& K& x1 F                        Then you see the boss walking by
                         It is time to stop.
                     
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The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category.  The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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1 ^) ^8 N. ], |0 n[ 本帖最后由 Matrix 于 2008-8-27 23:47 编辑 ]

billzhao

Excellent! and some flowers for you to show my great appreciation.