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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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* v. N- _6 ]# u) h& a- BSo here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.2 |% m$ L, h/ K1 Q; t
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:, Z5 v, {% S4 _, N: w; o& M* L9 w
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
9 w7 v* t" k+ |8 a" S9 g Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
; q X% j+ m' W: `; z. Q# i I am fine, thanks! (You)
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Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
, M9 p7 i9 Y7 E7 r Repeat Day 1 (Co-worker)1 E( v. c: A* k% B/ t+ b
I am fine, and how are you. (You)% k1 s7 O- q$ C/ U! U: e' U
Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)$ l- u0 y9 o, I, t8 R, W' M% d
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)5 |6 g8 p: \# h, G: G x; L
( T ~" O: |' L1 Q: m3 jDay 3: Repeat
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I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)0 E. E, ?- f3 h+ }0 E
Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)1 l+ |2 A- N2 V9 W0 e3 d% Q
Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)+ C! ?6 I. p- b0 A: i( D' e
Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)! e/ G9 r/ ?6 w% l! t9 r
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Next Monday: Repeat
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! G" J/ i9 f# Y9 g% ?4 j How was your weekend? (You)
+ H* }. \% _* O; Z- N5 @6 \( m1 p l Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
! z% _8 F2 L" W! F8 {- U Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You), |" }. Z6 o3 g' }3 F. ^/ R! v% w
Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)+ [, H& w8 r& }5 s7 J" ?0 W/ E% E
Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
% [5 K! V) H' a) j- b Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.5 y" x+ W9 O3 s4 f$ W- j) [
Great idea and I will2 T+ e1 e. z; S1 e
Bla—Bla—Bla
) p- g, Y1 E* h% v+ _ Then you see the boss walking by
) r8 l! H; H$ O9 n9 N/ d- F5 p It is time to stop.. | G) @% v" s3 q9 I: t6 b
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8 ^( N' |0 ]. e& N" PThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.1 F) e+ O& C, l( G( e
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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