Cold War

Matrix

I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.

Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
3 Z2 L& e0 N. a) m2 M. e, x% d  w            Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
            I am fine, thanks!       (You)

Day 2: Repeat  Day 1 (You)
            Repeat  Day 1 (Co-worker)
8 ?8 E( L, ^; g& {+ e% l! K1 p. k/ w            I am fine, and how are you. (You)
            Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
3 z, x2 U' z4 L            Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)

$ |" l5 z, Q9 [( B/ ^) r$ {2 ~% gDay 3: Repeat
# t! Z1 u% l. k; A6 S; C            Repeat
            Repeat
8 I- c; Y( {, L% i& ^2 ?/ T            I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
            Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
            Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
           Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)

Next Monday: Repeat
                        Repeat
                        How was your weekend? (You)
. U$ R0 A( N: g3 ~% z                        Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
                        Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
* F/ U, B& h  U( [9 H% R                        Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
8 G' o1 U' J" ~8 T4 M                        Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
$ i/ t! B0 |7 B- D9 S                        Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
3 h% s2 U( E- K4 I; K                        Great idea and I will
                        Bla—Bla—Bla
) j; s5 I: ^' B) S$ Y                        Then you see the boss walking by
8 Q4 f  j5 K, M, o0 E$ Y! D$ ^. I0 y' c                         It is time to stop.
                     
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' |0 C& y' O5 b0 AThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category.  The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
, t5 I, s1 N$ eAnd I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.

+ w" P9 e( p1 p1 S7 I% f6 k[ 本帖最后由 Matrix 于 2008-8-27 23:47 编辑 ]

billzhao

Excellent! and some flowers for you to show my great appreciation.