<转帖>孩子是因你而来,不是为你而来

秀色可餐

$ j' p; w, Q3 k: U1 x' _6 Z/ w( K% W今天偶然看到这首纪伯伦的诗，觉得很好，贴出来和大家一起分享
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+ ^- d- Y" q2 i0 m: D+ B; KOn Children
Kahlil Gibran
5 V7 c: O) [+ B- |3 _3 RYour children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
3 i0 P3 A5 g, E0 Q* ?They come through you but not from you,
: f# O# `2 q) P/ e" M* x. M' \And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
4 \  R8 R! e4 {7 \- ^$ bFor they have their own thoughts.
8 @% Q1 Q$ x: I- WYou may house their bodies but not their souls,
  X: e8 {5 K" Q, q: K1 T* Q# HFor their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
6 z' K5 j! B" Vbut seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
/ y7 f- G! j6 G) VYou are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
% J5 L- w% Q5 NThe archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
+ l: C6 x. T+ |' Dand He bends you with His might
: `# I7 I7 M9 Y% q& Q3 i9 W8 [8 ]# Pthat His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
! c+ F) c& q/ h, }so He loves also the bow that is stable.

秀色可餐

下面是中文翻译，可能不是很贴切。当你真正体会到其中的涵义时，便会发现其中“爱”、“放手”、“分清责任”、“信任”、“尊重”、“正向信念”这些家庭教育的真谛都包含其中。

* |$ v4 u. C5 h! y/ t你的子女，其实不是你的子女。
* n0 d; u9 I% J. J4 W他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。
: R9 Q( c6 Z5 p/ W& b$ j, s& W& T$ k他们借助你来到这世界，却非因你而来。
他们在你身旁，却并不属于你。
你可以给予他们的是你的爱，却不是你的思想，
" z3 @& y# N# q# d4 B因为他们有自己的思想。
你可以庇护的是他们的身体，却不是他们的灵魂，
6 e9 `( A* d' G3 F因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你做梦都无法到达的明天，
你可以拚尽全力，变得像他们一样，
却不要让他们变得和你一样，
8 H6 X5 s+ }% n8 V5 u6 I因为生命不会后退，也不在过去停留。
' Y+ c) W+ M1 I$ [你是弓，儿女是从你那里射出的箭。
弓箭手望着未来之路上的箭靶，
它用尽力气将你拉开，使他的箭射得又快又远。
怀着快乐的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，
因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。

马桶上的思想家

太美了，而且句句精辟深刻！

钱小妹

体会体会，非常有理

Rainbowjj

真是好文，谢谢分享！！！