<转帖>孩子是因你而来,不是为你而来

秀色可餐

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$ c; c! d1 Z8 e: @4 V; O/ I" z今天偶然看到这首纪伯伦的诗，觉得很好，贴出来和大家一起分享

On Children
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Your children are not your children.
  ^* V3 f; w3 }1 FThey are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
8 u- i& _1 j$ B& N5 A. H- D; Y- gThey come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
2 E9 u" g$ M  ?' U0 G! W1 ]8 [You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
' z7 d; G* p9 ?/ r8 PFor their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
8 x4 f' Q6 @( X/ z8 n% ^which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
% e! g% R4 n3 J9 {You may strive to be like them,
& u1 Z& e$ u8 @5 _" pbut seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
5 [  W; j9 x/ Z* i! C7 d7 hYou are the bows from which your children
3 U$ Z$ A) x) r2 L8 das living arrows are sent forth.
2 F( T' x) r( Z9 z9 Q( Y4 HThe archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
. ^# n# B0 ]: cand He bends you with His might
; D) e! o. b% K. O6 L4 Cthat His arrows may go swift and far.
' ]1 S+ v9 P' I+ }$ n$ S3 P$ GLet your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
- l$ u7 N9 h5 |5 y% _, }! m8 pFor even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

秀色可餐

下面是中文翻译，可能不是很贴切。当你真正体会到其中的涵义时，便会发现其中“爱”、“放手”、“分清责任”、“信任”、“尊重”、“正向信念”这些家庭教育的真谛都包含其中。
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3 D& n* b$ T! ?( z* h你的子女，其实不是你的子女。
他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。
他们借助你来到这世界，却非因你而来。
1 s% o9 h  R, l/ n  [他们在你身旁，却并不属于你。
1 i6 X* ?8 ?( |& `* g你可以给予他们的是你的爱，却不是你的思想，
因为他们有自己的思想。
你可以庇护的是他们的身体，却不是他们的灵魂，
) y  m( b1 ?+ V. R: u" {) H3 A3 a9 X因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你做梦都无法到达的明天，
4 i$ U$ H; P4 [7 o( l; C2 ]你可以拚尽全力，变得像他们一样，
0 F" j* w# E( s8 p5 C! b却不要让他们变得和你一样，
因为生命不会后退，也不在过去停留。
! y: R# J- p/ p( R( M' h你是弓，儿女是从你那里射出的箭。
弓箭手望着未来之路上的箭靶，
& c  G- I% G4 _它用尽力气将你拉开，使他的箭射得又快又远。
怀着快乐的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，
因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。

马桶上的思想家

太美了，而且句句精辟深刻！

钱小妹

体会体会，非常有理

Rainbowjj

真是好文，谢谢分享！！！