怎么才20个月的孩子就开始叛逆了？？？？？？？有同感的父母么？近来讨论下

edithyang

唉，累！

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很正常，开始有个体意识了，开始有自己的思维主见了，大人这时要理清自己的头绪，什么是重要的需要坚持的，搞清楚你的底线在哪里，什么是无所谓的。
也要尊重孩子的个体意识，只要不是触及底线的东西，就不用去把 ...
+ W  x3 Y; `: j' a竹帘儿 发表于 2010-10-20 20:17

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同意楼上各位。
6 R0 s4 M. p2 o' C( L9 m  R一定的规矩，一定的尊重。小时候严点，孩子越大，规矩应该越少。大人越管越少，孩子懂得自己管自己是最理想。
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* J- `0 V. a1 w/ D呵，我家的老大，小时候叛逆得不得了 ...
6 V- I5 n& j$ Q2 m莫迭儿 发表于 2010-10-20 22:07

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: q  \9 ?: ^/ s* U8 @+ ^% ]看到老二，狡猾分子这段，

我有同感的笑了

三思

他可以是独立的人，独立的思维，独立的行为，但18岁之前别跟我谈独立，12岁之前别跟我谈个性，6岁之前别跟我谈道理。
sweetlele 发表于 2010-10-20 16:33

乐老板，说个事，心理学里有四种父母，authoritarian parenting, permissive parenting, neglectful parenting, and authoritative parenting.你就是典型的authoritarian parenting阿

sweetlele

乐老板，说个事，心理学里有四种父母，authoritarian parenting, permissive parenting, neglectful parenting, and authoritative parenting.你就是典型的authoritarian parenting阿
2 q2 S! Y9 A9 B% ]( z三思 发表于 2010-10-24 08:09

这判断明显有偏差么
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我们在出现问题的时候还是会跟他对话的，而且在制定规则的时候都是详细地将给他听为什么并征得他的同意的，换句话说他如果挑战规则都是明知故犯
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至于规则内的部分他想怎么做是他的自由，我们从来不干涉。
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4 c4 l- \1 ^0 l7 m6 I  P" n* O自由不等于放纵，规矩下的自由完全让他发挥。孩子还算聪明，基本上一点就通，所以到目前为止，还是个规矩的小孩子

竹帘儿

乐老板，说个事，心理学里有四种父母，authoritarian parenting, permissive parenting, neglectful parenting, and authoritative parenting.你就是典型的authoritarian parenting阿
% s$ G7 D0 f4 ?三思 发表于 2010-10-24 08:09

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老听你拽这几个styles，我就去查了看看，

$ ^& r+ e/ C- u) C& FAuthoritarian parenting style is the one in which the parents always try to be in control of the children. Usually these are the sorts who try and impose rigid rules and restrictions on their kids in order to keep a tab on them. These parents often believe that children should show no signs of negative emotions like crying since it makes them weak and hence you find these parents constantly warning their children about crying. Children who have authoritarian parents always struggle to keep up with their parents’ expectations and often end up feeling a lack of affection in the child-parent bond. These parents often fail to explain their kids the reason behind imposing the rules and restrictions. Children with authoritarian parents often have trouble being independent individuals and think on their own and have difficulty in trusting their own judgment. Children with authoritarian parents can grow up feeling lonely, emotionally distressed and can have trouble in learning new concepts and getting along with their peers.

这里把高压政策的副作用阐述的很清楚，家长们应该引以为戒。

sweetlele

老听你拽这几个styles，我就去查了看看，

Authoritarian parenting style is the one in which the parents always try to be in control of the children. Usually these are the sorts who try and impose  ...
  b0 K) i/ ~- v$ e* C) W竹帘儿 发表于 2010-11-4 16:56

  @! _3 s! j  y& S7 h9 h如果说我家娃没有这些问题，是不是就说明我们的政策不属于这种高压呢，还是说这些东西其实不太准的？