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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 7 B, u6 n( R* ~# W* p0 K
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气( i E) F( `5 Y* |# n
8 c x, o' x7 m娃是很知道party的special的， ...
$ o, r! P+ a2 H# |3 f, Osweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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: }7 f/ W% K4 \$ E我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？1 x l+ ~# Y0 e3 V0 C1 _- {
% b8 `7 s4 s3 r% \. T我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。+ V. C0 M$ E8 r! g9 \( z
+ \+ ?5 q& C: g0 T另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。 j! Y- p2 e0 N) ^1 |7 y1 ^2 i4 E) ?
$ F" ^( Y+ c7 y8 y4 p' p1 T: d对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举' E" g0 r+ A) j3 K) J, g
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For Kids:
% |; x; | i" k# U1 lNot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. & d ^% F+ X" g4 ]3 z: O) Y
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
; e5 q" n# y+ u2 \ They are overindulged by too many presents. - D- z4 F. X) C% W0 j: ~, ]# a
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
- I Y) `% Y9 u E- [They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.4 n5 o# P# G, y& `. B! V" @( U! N
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.3 E5 p1 k2 f5 @& ^8 g
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things." }% e% {3 f$ K' x: l' |: o" h
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For Parents: $ N" a! p" c; ?& ?2 ~: {1 U
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
* f+ {0 ]% v6 X5 }0 i& @5 zThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. ( M- L& ?3 w4 \. e7 i
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
$ s* R2 g# ^. L) k dThey feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
8 G( | g* r, J: R' z% B$ \They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
3 y( ^' |6 I# V9 K4 s* xThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”$ I3 j9 E0 R4 [7 h5 H
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.% s8 c. H) L) M. T. q
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.' c: `) G, w4 z1 t- h5 a
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For the Community and Culture: : R+ K! T! n! A Q+ n
This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
$ ^5 C5 a8 c3 ?$ e$ vA too much stuff culture . e% G% s- Q/ s$ a6 s
A me first culture
2 h6 H& ^3 j9 _A trash and waste culture
+ r: \- s4 {) |, f7 _* ?8 S) HAn entitlement culture
5 h- x R, k* c5 X! j+ cA envy culture) l- n% b/ z4 C) Z* t
A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...: h( L, X6 u; L
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10