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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 2 M; _ \+ ?0 O
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...; {" k' G8 g* }& F/ }6 ?
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？: J. r$ H& X+ o3 [
! K0 |5 J& ~. k" q, K9 H6 F我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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: _1 E/ V7 O W/ J2 W3 K对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举$ p: r w; a) |# a
/ M7 d ] A) n5 s: UFor Kids:
/ d" H6 X$ \4 f# vNot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry.
, f9 P# T. l( Q( qThey get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
/ H$ {; X# p7 M$ b! K+ n They are overindulged by too many presents. * c- P# L2 q( x8 a
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. 6 h, h" [2 x1 M3 V* ?/ C7 w0 ^
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.) }3 {* W, X, `- |9 G
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.: n9 V* P2 V/ x
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.) V0 N6 a6 j' T- O
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For Parents:
/ s4 X5 k3 Q1 r, ~ GSome parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
8 A, A: V+ _/ }- | V* K. c% gThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. i; t# _( I+ k6 w: q, B
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. ( r$ H0 s* {2 e3 C7 u; G
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.0 t6 ~0 a$ P- [& l# ?5 k5 J$ l
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.1 N2 c ?, k. f
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”/ r6 |& \8 ?( p$ ]* T1 h
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.: M% S# H5 G$ a
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.5 l" N+ M% c( d! J( M, b
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For the Community and Culture:
\& Y% k. U+ |* gThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:( |2 x3 m8 v# L; I
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A me first culture: e: Y" q F9 a c# q
A trash and waste culture
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A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...4 }5 F& R K0 ]0 d1 }' V( J+ ?
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10