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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑
, z1 S2 t- q4 h1 m1 W9 `幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气/ U5 ~9 v( t* |8 Z# K
8 c- T* z' y4 Q) V娃是很知道party的special的， ...
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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$ X! G$ h( E2 p( u9 z对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举3 e8 D; @% t8 G* Q' Z# M0 F
1 T4 m7 g3 Q3 ^/ Y6 v6 @For Kids:
# G6 q0 D# g% X' ENot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. * b! P( f% Z2 n [" p
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.- x- W& x- M& a$ p0 r# n
They are overindulged by too many presents. * C$ e* o T& K- n" a
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. - q" y2 I8 ?' k) O8 _8 R
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.. I' }9 W+ i& X6 B
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.7 O$ H5 A1 S8 F( H. Z
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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For Parents:
) U2 b8 ^8 [3 k. ]Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
+ m K- E7 @( t% S; ^They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
; K. T9 A6 d8 e3 T, Q; zThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. " G% C& }% s9 g, Q
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
# `. a$ j+ Q/ a N) S0 m/ gThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.1 V+ [: b' y0 z
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”) \3 `3 V3 ]) t2 I- E- C2 H
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.
! ^# R, e% n( x+ H9 A- cThey experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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# b# @5 \( g) W4 L) JFor the Community and Culture: * }0 e+ C" i( h2 D2 a+ D
This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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A trash and waste culture
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A envy culture
) E& Z% p# H4 `0 V8 d0 ?A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...$ t. k1 Q( v5 C) t/ b5 ]
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10