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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 ' ]5 \. L1 J7 v! [: s
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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- |2 `( n2 ?2 g4 o娃是很知道party的special的， ...
{+ c) a" l9 n% J( Dsweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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: j1 k) D6 g; I; I" N( b- k我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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, \2 w, U' }3 j/ r" O& g! F我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。* W4 Y/ L, z, w
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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2 e: S/ @8 v) B$ [3 q对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. , A" a4 r8 i! H, P
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.4 L) W) l% N6 p$ s
They are overindulged by too many presents. % g; I% [7 L4 o. X/ p( V; ?
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
: t$ [: S5 h7 M* ]$ nThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
8 {( I0 `/ W. Y5 h/ `' b They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
* ^/ ?6 d8 A; h l6 D* }3 m, |3 V2 i Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.4 l* C. N& t- J
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Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.: T9 n9 A+ C0 C
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. 3 s% k; E* ^+ m
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. , W& ~# P2 T* O5 f1 `" B# Q! n. C' {
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up./ L1 K9 U- Y1 y4 [' k
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.$ ?5 s* e; f) V7 e4 a
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
, Q1 n# M, W2 f# D0 s' |- J. yThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.1 ?+ o# \5 o, M( j% }+ q1 f0 F
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.! z7 O7 A* c2 }7 y
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For the Community and Culture: 1 L$ s& }8 d) K: o. L) x. D$ D
This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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A trash and waste culture) K. P! J7 H1 x
An entitlement culture
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A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...( @: x; W- w. Y$ S* X5 W
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10