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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 . T+ \& A7 u5 O8 c; _- Q
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
; Y, Y D1 u! F$ l6 D我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？* z7 c2 x6 Q ]
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。# O: _- b/ z2 e+ b2 b: p G9 }9 k3 y1 M
. Y( K( k0 h) m3 o另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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* B$ c& x5 \$ i" N对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry.
9 A4 P$ R1 R9 W4 c) \; q5 cThey get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.' {0 g" F8 ]( ~8 K8 K( _
They are overindulged by too many presents.
+ W; O& [# ?1 K2 {9 n* ] TThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
, }: I; g0 W, C% W/ ~, t. XThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
# M- p% F7 n4 q* L They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
6 e4 e, X# }( A2 @) |, }* w Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.7 g! }: F7 Y% H9 r
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Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences., C4 D- `5 c6 ?! t) [. c, r
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. ! F9 _5 ]. ~+ L: D% u0 r
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. : R" v6 x' v# ^# F4 ~4 @% _- ~
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.0 M' |. W5 d, s4 F! X: Y
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
7 _% `$ M- b! F5 HThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”- C3 `- ?. _, |- r
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.; r3 M2 [9 e2 K: ], X$ a! U& v
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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For the Community and Culture:
- d6 B, p' v# F5 y) } m2 vThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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A trash and waste culture0 d: w7 l, x& v2 B0 e# C5 q
An entitlement culture, S5 x& p, N+ x- S8 m' p. a
A envy culture
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...1 n# r4 E5 ], g9 X
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10