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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 " E$ w6 ]1 j; \) x2 x
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气" D7 |+ [: N0 {* ^& \5 p1 j
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sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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! X4 I5 O3 I) H0 t$ }+ |* T' j+ j我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？4 p/ x; u$ W: P9 W7 F1 |5 r3 ~! M
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。/ G' E3 t) F! ]& A
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举" ~& v2 I0 A/ Q' v* _
2 _+ ^( M2 Q: m# A( jFor Kids:
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They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
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% m6 C/ w/ M) H ~% K/ U9 BThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
* P; z/ B1 n2 {" \They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.7 I" D; X( s& r K ]( l
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.- H% X1 ~) @+ S, Z
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.6 E- n5 D9 U* D3 o
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Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.( s& U: D. w/ ~
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. 2 w/ R: [ {# T1 ?
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
9 ?9 x2 e9 m, y$ d% v: UThey feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
) s" P5 b5 k$ X6 m! A9 d, SThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
4 Z1 o6 l: G$ T+ f! {They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”) \2 m- [# Z9 w( ^- _
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.6 M8 h M- A) m! _
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.# @8 x0 z4 y+ y7 j- L( E. D- A
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! r9 R- z/ `; qFor the Community and Culture:
7 [' v$ B- d3 b) b7 p: j9 YThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10