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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑
5 x7 k1 h2 F6 v幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气+ m; p1 b+ X( J9 v
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sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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& i/ L4 _! ^! M2 L另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。2 s( P8 U' k7 K5 \0 g% d9 P3 [4 W
9 Y5 Y3 }7 H6 R; Y5 S* W2 z对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids: ' ?/ H- `+ R4 c
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry.
+ p7 u' T( L B$ C8 _They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
; v2 q; Q; [0 W$ R+ M; h! v They are overindulged by too many presents. , l8 b' T+ x4 G
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. 1 M k) P5 q: x5 B
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.5 \* y. W5 D7 X; R! G% S
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.7 o9 z) t: d* o8 s) d* X
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.5 K# d0 ~8 f1 e9 o# { u5 t
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For Parents:
9 m! f6 F0 g5 r. J4 c' ~/ ISome parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences./ f+ O9 v1 _$ D
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
/ x1 l* [; l* ?0 x& jThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
: P1 @5 {0 d- D& [They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.' A( _, ~! |# U2 B# ~
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party. o, i( `' z- {6 x% S: Z, Z
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
; H; V9 _7 g& \3 Y9 EThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.
! B; D2 ^; D& q' E/ rThey experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.5 d" f; d3 p3 V g6 Y5 l
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* q, u- }4 k* @8 c4 GThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:. ~/ z6 p. T9 i; O V2 J
A too much stuff culture
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An entitlement culture7 f1 U5 K$ [2 h% Q" o
A envy culture4 {1 B! W& o: v. s0 E. b7 L
A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...) F2 F" n5 q; c' y! j6 |% Z8 g( J' k
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10