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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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! \! }7 j; |, j& dSo here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
" P- S5 E( M1 H; Q5 d: n4 g Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
3 V. r6 E9 `$ g4 u9 e$ y! Y6 C- } I am fine, thanks! (You)5 X7 R* H- U1 x! p8 r2 R; Q% [7 X
9 c+ }5 m* U! P! ~/ u/ HDay 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
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I am fine, and how are you. (You)
. S1 s2 s% x7 F( z1 V- Y9 M- Y Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
5 `4 p8 J0 b& U. G Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)- L6 z5 L; e9 r, E; r/ e- d2 x
+ {! P3 Y- @, Y( p, D n6 U. I/ {- qDay 3: Repeat
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7 h1 P K) T* w @7 O4 g$ n I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)1 G) k3 ]3 I6 I; n b# `2 A$ m
Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
9 M! Q+ S& {& E6 c6 e6 d/ j Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)' v$ v8 Q- {* \4 L& L8 g
Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)7 |( i7 g6 w% G1 }4 v6 b' F
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- x7 [* q- S: W& z& H1 X$ P How was your weekend? (You)
: t2 M+ W% D1 @ Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
, _( ~ g7 j u+ o) | Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)1 k' v/ _, }! ^, `" T
Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
* a2 V: p/ j3 C( m8 F Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
1 D! A! Q9 l/ Q- M5 a/ e Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
7 |( O' V1 Q# y3 R0 z Great idea and I will2 T$ R5 t |8 J( v% m* `+ a9 H& ]
Bla—Bla—Bla
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It is time to stop.
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5 }* I* x. s) K6 FThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
4 d: Y& g9 G1 e! v, ^And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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