Cold War

Matrix

I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.

So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:

: `6 {& \: X" h( e% d5 G& WDay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
& A3 U3 T5 R( R0 y0 T: g6 u7 F* }" {. Z            Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
            I am fine, thanks!       (You)
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Day 2: Repeat  Day 1 (You)
            Repeat  Day 1 (Co-worker)
) Z7 x  \% \: @/ a6 X% Q, H/ p  w            I am fine, and how are you. (You)
1 n0 H) u1 _3 h            Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
            Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)

$ N& B* u- \& pDay 3: Repeat
$ h, `3 K1 o! B. e3 T            Repeat
            Repeat
            I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
* X$ ?" \' q1 `7 e0 b9 p            Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
            Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
2 m) m! c2 c: F" ~  b, z8 O# j           Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)
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Next Monday: Repeat
* ^+ B' `! ^0 A2 f. |7 _- l                        Repeat
                        How was your weekend? (You)
                        Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
# I5 Z) @3 S% q4 }2 a) R3 E                        Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
" S) j9 q, f  D& D$ F. u8 h                        Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
                        Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
                        Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
                        Great idea and I will
                        Bla—Bla—Bla
; g, h7 k5 J% N, h7 i                        Then you see the boss walking by
) F: k: {1 d+ y) K; X/ j4 N                         It is time to stop.
                     
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8 _3 E1 o7 s. gThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category.  The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.

% i+ P( s2 f( u) D[ 本帖最后由 Matrix 于 2008-8-27 23:47 编辑 ]

billzhao

Excellent! and some flowers for you to show my great appreciation.