<转帖>孩子是因你而来,不是为你而来

秀色可餐

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' o& s' x  c, ?. n) [9 M5 t今天偶然看到这首纪伯伦的诗，觉得很好，贴出来和大家一起分享
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On Children
Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
# B; W/ k% M% }' I5 ~( {And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
* }/ [5 d! Y) g1 BYou may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
# H' R" k  a5 l* `% ~, Z; kYou may house their bodies but not their souls,
% V$ b6 ~9 k- h: ]% E" h# {/ uFor their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
" v9 X1 ?. ]* y% [: iwhich you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
8 @0 [; p3 H2 a. c, p8 u! _( z5 oYou may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
& p" R0 N# ~+ e5 lYou are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
; t  a7 W+ d/ i9 e4 O$ N, \and He bends you with His might
9 c4 o3 {( s1 t0 V- {, R6 C/ hthat His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
. {0 ?) `6 J; |! z7 F  d) TFor even as He loves the arrow that flies,
! K3 X9 o1 Z$ ^! N  ^4 n5 H- O0 R' iso He loves also the bow that is stable.

秀色可餐

下面是中文翻译，可能不是很贴切。当你真正体会到其中的涵义时，便会发现其中“爱”、“放手”、“分清责任”、“信任”、“尊重”、“正向信念”这些家庭教育的真谛都包含其中。

你的子女，其实不是你的子女。
他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。
他们借助你来到这世界，却非因你而来。
他们在你身旁，却并不属于你。
你可以给予他们的是你的爱，却不是你的思想，
因为他们有自己的思想。
  Z0 @: s' y& {. T1 G# D你可以庇护的是他们的身体，却不是他们的灵魂，
因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你做梦都无法到达的明天，
' L7 X+ D8 O! y, Z8 k7 \你可以拚尽全力，变得像他们一样，
- M7 x6 v9 Z! b, s& `却不要让他们变得和你一样，
因为生命不会后退，也不在过去停留。
你是弓，儿女是从你那里射出的箭。
% ~4 _  ]# e& \4 L弓箭手望着未来之路上的箭靶，
它用尽力气将你拉开，使他的箭射得又快又远。
怀着快乐的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，
因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。

马桶上的思想家

太美了，而且句句精辟深刻！

钱小妹

体会体会，非常有理

Rainbowjj

真是好文，谢谢分享！！！